Unraveling Heartache: Why Can't I Let Go After a Breakup?

Overwhelmed by lingering feelings for an ex? Discover why it’s normal to feel this way and how prayer and self-love can guide you towards inner peace.

Psychic E-zine February – Fear and love

Not surprisingly, I’m often asked by clients, who have experienced a recent-ish breakup of a serious relationship, why they can’t let go and move on. The love affair had ended without a fulfilling closure. A bad fight that results in a breakup are probably the worst because this often means never speaking again.

Who will cross the great divide that now separates you? No one even knows what’s creating it. Pride? Indifference? Fear? A new lover?

Feeling stuck in heartbreak? This article uncovers the psychic connections that bind us and offers spiritual insights to help you move forward with resilience.

When It’s Really Over

“Why can’t I get over this person? Do you know when I’m going to stop crying, obsessing, feeling horrible, depressed and down on myself?!”

This agony is indiscriminatory! Age, sex, cultural heritage, religion, profession, socio-economic status make no difference. We’re all the same,

“Why does so-and-so stick in my head? I dream about them, think about them every minute of the day and they don’t even care about me. What is WRONG with me!? Am I nuts?

Following a spite of weeping, they tentatively ask, “Are they coming back?”

This hard-to-resist hope is especially compelling if the meeting was synchronistic, and they share a psychic connection which most deeply in love people do. Spirit moves around and through on the vehicle of love. Sometimes the love is physical only but that love is powerful too. The blending of physical and spirit is a soul enriching experience. Compelling, unforgettable. In case you’re doubtful, think Tantric Yoga.

Primary Emotions

There are two primary emotions that comprise the trunk of our emotional tree. Fear and love. The rest of our emotions are like branches and suckers that grow off this dual, primary emotional train.

Fear and love are opposite emotions and when we experience them together, it’s addictive and pernicious. Sado-masochism, co-dependency and self-pity, for example, are symptoms when we feel both love and fear at the same time.

It’s a common and mistaken belief that we cannot feel hate and love at the same time, but we can. Typically, we do because they are the flip side of the same emotional coin. We do feel hate towards those we deeply love. Remember how you felt about your parents when you were a teenager? My ridicule knew no bounds towards my parents. I can still slip into the groove occasionally.

From Agony to Enlightenment: Letting Go with Grace

Love’s Illusions

People ask me, “What can I do to change my rejecting lover’s feelings towards me?”

How easy it is to understand this apparent mean-spirited one-sidedness when it comes to ourselves. Hasn’t someone burned hot for you too? Yet for whatever reason their passionate advances left you feeling cold, indifferent and maybe even, dare I say… a tad repulsed?

Is there anything they could have done to ignite your fire? Is there anything they could have said or changed about themselves that would have spurred you to wax poetic and turned on like an inferno? No? Even better, would you want this person to have access to a Magician that could alter your feelings towards them?!!

The Dream of a Deep and Abiding Intimacy

The best you can do to help yourself recover from this unrequited love is to pray for the subject of your desire. Pray for their happiness, good health and spiritual enlightenment. Send them your love through the spiritual cloud. Not by texting, NO texting! This is a very hard habit to break after you’ve broken up with someone but it’s the very worst thing you can do.

Celebrate your ability to love deeply and unselfishly. It’s the bounty of your abiding and generous spirit. It’s what makes you special. To be chosen to be the conduit of this special love is a divinely inspired gift. Don’t despair! It’s not a sign that you’re crazy but rather one that you’re sensitive, loving and vulnerable. Just don’t throw pearls to swine as my crotchety grannie used to say.

Blessings Kathleen

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FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions About Breakup

Breakups can be extremely challenging, especially if the relationship ended without closure. The emotional pain is universal and not dependent on age, sex, cultural heritage, religion, profession, or socio-economic status.

It’s normal to dream about or constantly think about an ex. This happens because of the deep emotional and psychic connection shared during the relationship. Recognize that this is part of the healing process.

No, there is nothing wrong with you. It is natural to feel sad, obsessed, or even depressed after a breakup. These emotions indicate that you deeply cared about the relationship.

It is common to hold on to the hope of reconciliation, especially if the relationship felt synchronistic. However, focusing on self-care and personal growth is more beneficial than waiting for someone to return.

Fear and love are primary emotions that often get mixed, making the emotional pain addictive and difficult to overcome. Understanding this dynamic can help you process your feelings better.

Yes, it is possible to feel both love and hate for someone you deeply cared about. These emotions are two sides of the same coin and are a natural part of the healing process.

It’s important to realize that you cannot control someone else’s feelings. Instead of trying to change their feelings, focus on your own healing and self-improvement.

Praying for the happiness and spiritual enlightenment of the person you loved can help you find peace. Avoid texting them and instead send your love through positive thoughts and prayers.

Celebrate your ability to love deeply and unselfishly. Recognize that this is a sign of your generous spirit and sensitivity. Engage in self-care activities and surround yourself with supportive friends and family.