Getting Ready for Valentines?
The most common conundrum clients bring to my reading space is the realm of romantic love. Other love questions, such as those involving offspring, parents, friends and siblings are also asked but it’s the anguish of lovers that tops the list. Keeping my skewed perspective in mind, in part due to the type of work I do, I’ve come to the conclusion that monogamy is the issue that most commonly breaks apart couples yet it’s one so rarely understood between a newly, budding couple. The second most common cause of splitting up a couple is money. Neither of these issues are discussed enough at the outset.
Random is Bogus
If you believe you will miraculously, by divine providence, fate and random being at the right place at the right time to meet just the perfect mate, please disabuse yourself of that notion. It’s so rare for this to happen successfully, it has become the grist of legends.
Meeting the ideal mate is going to take careful planning and curating, exploration, research and intense inner work. Just ask any one of the millions who have gone through a divorce in the past year. Random is bogus.
Always keep in mind that spirit doesn’t CARE if you partner with the nastiest individual in the world or end up living on the streets in bone-crushing poverty. Both afford great suffering, thereby garner the best opportunities to develop spiritually and soulfully. The Spirit World doesn’t CARE about your manifested life here – Spirit is keen on the health and strength of your spirit and that doesn’t involve insuring your wealth, having excellent health all your life or meeting Mr/Ms Right. That’s ALL up to you.
Don’t Have Sex Too Soon
Monogamy means having sex with one person exclusively. It continues to hold value in most people’s minds, but many don’t know how to initiate a discussion about it to a new partner. Will they think I’m pushing the, “let’s have a relationship” issue? If you are worried that the question will be perceived as asking for a commitment, you should also always include a caveat that you are not asking for the sake of commitment but rather for health. I never met a man in my life who was so desirable he was worth dying of aids for. Not one.
I would also add a few other bits of advice. First on the list, don’t have sex too soon. I know! What a party pooper.
What is the right amount of time to have been dating before having sex? My advice is no sooner than a minimum of a dozen dates. This will afford both of you opportunity to explore and have fun!
No sense in going forward if you’re both not on the same page regarding monogamy. I recommend that if you are a woman, you never raise this issue. Ever. That’s a topic a man needs to raise and if he doesn’t, as a woman, know that it’s not important to him. The more important monogamy is to you as a woman, the more crucial it is that you NEVER are the one to raise it. For obvious reasons.
Beauty and the Rich Guy
Finding our one and only is complicated. Typically, we have almost no clue what it is we’re seeking in a mate. Women will often extoll the virtues of a man who is gentle, considerate, good natured, and reasonably attractive. As if these top the list. A man will extoll how vital it is that she’s warm, easy going and good natured.
“His financial success is irrelevant?”, I ask a little tongue in cheek? “An unemployed, homeless guy who is sensitive and considerate is fine?”, I ask?
“Hell no!”
“It’s okay if she’s not in shape?”, I ask male clients also a little tongue in cheek? “A woman who admits to being overweight, with a facial skin disorder who is warm and easy going is fine?”, I ask?
“Um no!”
Sometimes his wealth tops the list, but the means in which he accumulated the wealth may be irrelevant until you find out he’s a drug dealer and his friends are dodgy and scary.
Sometimes beauty tops the list of my male clients until he finds out she spends $1000 a month on her beauty regimen and her income is in the $35,000 a year range which has resulted in some rather huge debt load.
I also point out to most of my single clients that finding the mate to settle down with is serious business. You are going to share everything with this person. Your family, your body, your money, your friends, your career and your future.
Take Your Time, Do Your Research
Sharing our lives with another person who is our most favourite human in the world is a wonder, joy and pleasure like no other. If you’re searching, take your time. Do your research! Know yourself especially. What keeps you excited or drives you to mind numbing boredom? What terrifies, frustrates or repulses you? I met a woman who was married to a man who ate copious amounts of garlic for health and after a while she couldn’t stand the thought of even climbing into the same bed. You might imagine this would be easily fixed, but it wasn’t and after a few years she left him.
Consider carefully, what are your 3 topmost non-negotiables? What 3 characteristics can you realistically compromise and negotiate with? Is diplomacy and kindness more important to you than honesty?
Be prepared to compromise because each positive brings with it a negative. As you know it’s not the positives that we struggle to accept but the negatives that inherently come with those positives.
I wish you a romantic and loving 2020!
Blessings Kathleen
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Shortly after we moved back to Victoria, I did a couple of lectures at our local Oak Bay library on dreams and the writings of Carl Jung. Follow the links below to listen to pieces of these lectures.
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